Christian Dating


Christian Dating Tips...
Honoring Christ, Your Date, and Yourself!

Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?
2 Corinthians 6:14

We've put together some Christian dating tips that we hope will be helpful for you or for someone you love.
When it comes to dating, Christian singles are in a battle every day.

As Christians we all are called to a higher standard of living than when we walked in our fleshly desires. The Apostle Paul wrote in

1 Corinthians 6:19-20
"You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body." (NIV)

Whether we are young or old, the battle rages on in our flesh to remain pure and holy while we are dating, We MUST honor God with our bodies and we also want to honor those we are dating.

The good news is that we have help through the Holy Spirit who guides us and we know that Jesus has overcome the world! We don't have to face the battle alone.

Below, you will find some very practical dating tips that you can apply while dating. Some of these dating tips may seem a bit rigid, but when followed you'll find that you end up with a beautiful relationship on the other end; and you'll have no regrets.

Dating Tips to Grow a Strong Relationship!

    Pray – Before you even leave home to meet your date you need to spend time on your knees asking God to help you honor Him and your date. You can never go wrong with prayer. This will also put you in the proper mind-set for your time together.
    Talk a lot – There's no better way to get to know someone than by talking to them about a wide variety of topics. The more you talk, the more you will begin to know if this might be a relationship that you should pursue.

    Let's be friends! – This is an important dating tip to remember. Don't forget that until you are married the person you are dating could be some one else's future mate. When you begin dating someone there is a lot of pressure to move things along much too quickly. Choose to keep your relationship on a friendship level. The longer you can remain "just friends", the better your relationship will be if you decide to get married at some point. It's great being married to your best friend!

    Pray in groups – What in the world does that mean? This sounds like an odd dating tip. What we're suggesting is that you don't pray together alone as a couple too early in your relationship. Prayer is so very important in any relationship so please don't misunderstand this point. When you pray with someone of the opposite sex that you care about you begin to build a level of intimacy that can often lead to trouble.

    The goal in any Christian relationship is to honor God. Prayer is intimate communication with God and can draw couples together in ways not intended if you are not careful. It's better to pray together when you are with other Christians. This will help keep the focus on God and not allow thoughts and emotions to wander to prohibited areas.

    Choose to not kiss – At least until you are engaged to be married. Okay, this can be extremely difficult, but if you can follow this one dating tip then most of the others will happen naturally. Even kissing once you are engaged can be very dangerous. It's better to not kiss at all until your wedding day! Before you laugh and click to another page with thoughts that we must be insane, consider these points on kissing.
        A kiss begins to sexually stimulate a man (and woman) instantly.

        If you aren't kissing then you won't become tempted to take things to a more intimate level. You'll be protecting yourself and the purity of your date.

        If a Christian man is kissing his date and it gives him an erection (often just the possibility of a kiss can do this), is God or his date being honored?

        Is this healthy for the man to get sexually aroused time after time without sexual release? When men become sexually aroused a large amount of blood flows to the genitals. If ejaculation does not occur; the build up of blood can become painful. That just can't be a good thing for anyone! Ouch!

        A kiss will surely break down your barriers and leave you in a position that could ultimately devastate your relationship with your date and separate you from a close walk with God. Self-control seems to be the better option.

        Just think how magical that first kiss will be if it is saved for your wedding day!

    Include another couple – You will find that physical issues are much less distracting if you plan most of your dating situations to include other couples. Group dates can be a lot of fun and you'll also be helping your friends maintain purity in their relationships as well.

    Always treat each other with respect – If you respect the person you are with then you won't say or do things that will intentionally hurt them. Ask yourself "what would Jesus do?" and then do it!

Please don't simply read these dating tips and then not try to apply any of them to your dating situations. Dating is a wonderful experience and should be enjoyed by both people in the relationship. If you came searching for these dating tips then you have a desire to honor your date and honor God with the choices you will make while dating.

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things." Philippians 4:8 (NIV)





Do's and Don'ts for Christian Dating

Can I have sex if I am a single Christian?

God is looking for holy people. Christian mates who will not destroy his temple by giving themselves to multiple partners. "Do you know that you are a temple of God and that the Spirit of God dwells in you. If any man destroys the temple of God, God will destroy him, for the temple of God is holy and that is what you are." I Cor. 3:16.
The bible tells us to flee fornication. Keep your temple clean and look for others who are doing the same. The Lord understands that you are flesh and have weaknesses. Nevertheless, He does not want you to be used and abused by others who care only to take advantage of you. God desires that you find a mate who will not just serve you with their body, but physically, mentally, socially, financially and spiritually. He wants you to have the "total package. This is why He ordained marriage. Therefore, that one person can get the whole package. It is better to receive the total package, then receive just ¼ of it!

How important is spiritual wisdom in my choice for a mate?

Christian singles should carry biblical wisdom in seeking a Christian match. The more we grasp all that earthly relationships are intended to be, the better we can understand what Godly relationship are supposed to be. Christian spiritual insight says that "man should gain understanding." How can a man relate to a woman if he can not understand her? So seeking understanding is very important. "Keep sound wisdom and judgment." Basically are you a person with common sense.
Do you have a solid sense of judgment when it comes to picking mates? These are excellent bits of knowledge when you are looking for a Christian mate. "A generous man will be prosperous." Being generous instead of self-serving is a virtue when you are dealing with others. A self-centered person will eventually turn others away. To find a mate, one must be generous in nature. Spiritual discernment is important in recognizing the inner man instead of the outer man. This will support you in your decision to find a Christian mate online. Because you will not get to see the face of others at first. You must use discernment as you correspond and relate to the other person through email and telephone. So the inner man/woman is an important element in online dating.

How can I be certain this person is a Christian?

To check a dating mate's authenticity, watch for meaningful signs of spirit-filled interest in God and a willingness towards obedience of God's Word, in order to serve the Lord with their total heart, mind and body.
These main characteristics show a solid maturity and constant discipline in that person's life. A single Christian person will walk in a manner that is of the flesh, and spirit-filled, wanting to please God instead of man. "But ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you." This is what spiritual discernment is all about.
Keep a diligent watch for single Christians who walk in the flesh and not in the spirit. This does not mean that they do not believe in God. Many people believe in God, but have carnal mindsets, instead of renewed spiritual minds. These people pursue worldly desires and attitudes of the flesh.
A Holy-Spirit inspired mind will desire to please God in all areas of his life including his/her attitude toward others, work life, family, finances, church life, and in their own personal lifestyle. The person whose mind, body and spirit is focused on Christ is truly living an abundant Christian life.

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